Do you have a tantrum throwing child inside you!

:o) watch this video.. i am sure all of us can connect with this! – excerpt from talks by Paramahamsa Nithyananda on http://www.youtube.com/lifeblissfoundation

Handling Criticism – a stepping stone to higher self!

There are probably only some enlightened souls who don’t mind being criticized. The rest of us cringe at the thought of it. Some people run away from it. Then there are some, who don’t even attempt doing anything lest they be criticized!

Even though everyone hates it, no one has any qualms doling it out to others! J Inspite of knowing that all of us have our own faults and have our strong points and not so strong points, we still make the mistake of criticizing others. If you saw the face of the person receiving it cringe, then please don’t fool yourself and others saying you were just giving them some honest feedback! Feedback is given from a space of completion, where there is only an interest to see improvement in the other, whereas criticism is used only by a person who has vengeance and anger within!

There are some people who run away from criticism, and some who avoid it like plague. All of us should however know that handling criticism can be a great teacher if you take it in the right spirit! Whenever you feel the heat of criticism – put a stop to the chattering in your mind and Look In! Why are you feeling the heat of it if what was said was not true? If its true, isn’t it good that there is someone to remind you and bring back your focus in the right direction? If its not true, why bother about it at all? One way or another, remaining cool and contemplating on it will take you a long way in understanding yourself and understanding life!

Always Listen! Listen to yourself! Listen to others! Each time you will move one step more towards your higher self!

Strategy to win in all situations!

For over a week now Swamiji has been speaking about the Advaithic space and i have fallen in love with this topic! Such an amazing truth explained so simply. Every time he reveals a truth I am amazed! I have lived as his disciple for the past 9 years in the ashram but there are so many things i am still learning every day, so many things yet to be revealed by him.. i am just a baby in this path! They say, the master reveals a truth only to the disciple who is ready to listen.. or is it that the master always keeps repeating the same truth, but when the disciple is ready the truth finally reveals itself to him!?

One of the ultimate truths he has been repeating is ‘Everyone is an extention of you!’ .. the first thought that would come to my mind then was “Well if thats the case, how come i dont much care for the attitude of X and how is it that these two people dont get along’ ?

The truth finally ‘clicked’ for me during one of the satsangs a few days ago. He said – Everyone is an extension of you. Whether you call the person as a Hitler or Bin Laden, Buddha or Mahadeva, Krishna or Kali, everyone is extension of you! Look in and see! Everyone of us has a part within us which we hate and a part within us which we love. These people who we are talking about are magnified forms of the parts which you love/hate!

Look into you. Complete with the part of you which is responsible for your anger, your violence. You will see that guy, the “the world” (outer world) terrorist loses all his power; he will become powerless! You entertaining anger towards him which is in the “my world” (inner world), keeps his violence active and alive. The moment you complete with this, your enemy will no more be a lion; he will become a rat! Make the enemy powerless by making your enmity powerless!

They will become powerless, their violent actions will become powerless; they will become stupid when they try to attack you; and they will just lose all their power. I tell you, Completion with your violence, Completion with your anger, Completion with your enmity will make your enemy powerless. It is the law of life!

The space of Advaitha is where: Everything is extension of me, whatever I want is already part of me. And that is Kalpataru!

What a mind boggling satsang! I simply loved it! Many of us do not understand why we are being asked to drop the anger towards someone who has wronged us, even get angry with the people who even suggest such a thing! .. It takes a little bit of looking in, to realize that its for our own benefit, no one elses!

To read the transcript of  the entire talk or watch the video click here

Many of us can hear but can’t listen

My Guru Paramahamsa Nithyananda listening to a disciple’s question about life and its mysteries

My Guru Paramahamsa Nithyananda Swami has been speaking on a very important topic ‘completion’ for over a year now! The source of all problems in life, be it – bad health, relationships, money issues, fears, worries and feeling of not being loved or appreciated – everything! for every problem the solution is only one thing – COMPLETION!

So what is this completion? How to achieve it? Is it something only people who are spiritual/meditators etc enjoy or can practice? The answer is NO! Everyone can do it and anyone can do it – no need to be a regular meditator even though meditation ofcourse helps the process in a big way!

Completion is nothing but seeing a situation/incident/experience as it is and not feeling powerless about it. And the secret to doing this is “Listening”. Listening to yourself, the cries of your heart, the complaints, the frustrations and the fears! Just like every other living being your heart also just needs to be listened to. You will see that a lot of understanding happens through listening – understanding of yourself and others and you start seeing everything as it is. You realize that the reason for all incompletions is directly you and noone else! You are responsible! When you know you are responsible and the mess-up is because of your irresponsibility, you will know how to take responsibility and clear up the mess!

Life is really very simple. Its we who make it complicated with our perceptions and fears which make our perceptions look like facts 🙂

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Listening needs three things from us:
One, a passive inner space that invites the other person to pour themselves into your listening
Two, a deep patience that can wait for a solution to emerge on its own
Three, the courage to respond spontaneously, without a prepared answer or a ready made solution

Listening means just dropping the mind and being available for the other.People don’t always means what they say or say what they mean. Only when we “Listen” do we know what is lying behind the words that are being spoken.